Lifetuts

Most people find it hard to make choices. I know I do sometimes. The difficulty of course depends upon the topic to make a choice in. Deciding between getting a Big Mac and some French Fries or a Cheeseburger with a salad is a much easier decision to make than deciding to stay at your (boring) job or quitting it.
After all, making a choice means NOT doing the other option(s)!  The ‘what-if’ scenarios make most of us hesitate to act…

A lot of choices aren’t that life altering. If you choose one or the other, the outcome doesn’t make that much of a difference in your life. Like in the Big Mac or Cheeseburger example. Just pick one and stop doubting… Maybe the people you’re with allow you to take a bite out of their burger. 
Making a bigger decision/choice will bring more baggage. ‘What will people think?’, ‘How do I justify this choice?’ etc. All these thoughts will make you loose your connection with your intuition. 
Some years ago I had a job I really disliked. Most of the days I drove to work feeling more sad then the day before. I remember, in one of the last weeks, I cried when I woke up realizing I still had to go. Finally I was offered another job, which I took gladly! But I ended up even more depressed because I was too focussed upon getting out of the old job. That focus clouded my judgement and intuition from seeing that the new work environment was even more unsuitable than the one I was working in.  

How to make a choice?
Basically: put your trust in faith. There are several things you can do, but I’ll give you two examples. 
If you really don’t know what to do, can’t figure out what to decide for whatever reason: try ‘heads or tales’.  Assign both choices to a side and through the coin. If you really didn’t have a clou what to choose, simply accept the outcome. However, if you unconsciously had the right answer, your feeling about the outcome will tell you. Are you disappointed or relieved?

Secondly you could write down the choices on a piece of paper and hold one in each hand. Stretch your arms before you and try to feel which one of your hands feels more heavy. Pick that one! Again, are you disappointed or relieved? 

Personally, I prefer the first method. But both methods are ways to bring you into contact with your gut feeling. In many cases your feelings will tell you what the right choice is. Trick is to recognize those feelings.

In a local bookstore I came across his book in which he explanes his fairly simple and yet unique way to get red of all the complaining, gossiping and whining… After I bought it, the bracelet went to my wife and I ordered about 15 of those purple bracelets. The reason why his idea appealed so much to me, is its pureness and simplicity. If you just think a little  about what you are saying, or what you’ve just said, you know if it is a complaint, gossip of whine (is that a word?). If you’re truly willing to work with these aspects of your communication this will work. And you’ll be amazed how much if it resides in the ‘tone of voice’.

Most people I tell about this bracelet, a purple one is very hard to hide, like the idea, but don’t start…. And I am curious why that is? Why do so many people of my age (33) kind of stop improving themselves? Sure every now and then people do a short course via their work, but making significant changes to one’s behaviour seems to much to ask.

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